Friday, 15 July 2016
A lot of people will tell you to be different. In the 21st century, that's quite startling. Supposedly, we are in an era of unprecedented social progress. It's a lie. Certain agendas are being furthered, mostly off the back of anecdotal whining, while others continue to be dismissed. Mainly because they don't fit the narrative of those other agendas. Well, I am here to tell you that there are plenty of things people lie about when they say that they are not okay. They don't deviate from the truth out of malice. They just don't understand. They are not bad people; remember that.
It's okay to be sad. It means you're human. Amazingly, if you called it depression, they would show you respect and support you. Call it sadness and you need to get over yourself. The real sad thing is people can't see past that contradiction. They will tell you that you need to be happy. You need to be positive. No, you don't. Whatever gets you through the day is what you do. People can extol their way as better but that's like someone telling me Hawaiian pizza is the best. For some, yes. For me, no. Everyone is different. It's time we accepted that in every facet of life.
It's okay to be downbeat. Being upbeat purely to appease others is a lie. If they love you, they'll love you for who you are, not what you can pretend to be. If they can't accept that, they probably aren't the people you should have in your life. It's like a gay person keeping a homophobe for a friend.
It's okay to not have an opinion on something. That doesn't make you an enemy of a cause. The statement "If you're not with us, you're against us" takes many forms but it is a bullying, polarising tactic that is fundamentally hateful. Anything that forces you to do, say or think something is interested only in itself and not you.
It's okay to be in the minority. Sure, it means you don't get your way now but you might do one day. A minority used to read comic books. Now, a majority watch comic book films. A minority used to not read books. Now, a majority have read Harry Potter.
It's okay to not like something. No, that doesn't make you weird. There is no such thing as normal. To get what is supposedly normal, you take everything, everyone, and take an average. That means your weird is part of that normal.
It's okay to be who you are because God, nature, circumstance and choice made you that way.
It's okay to have your troubles because you can take them, even if that means asking those around you to help.
It's okay to see everyone else get what they want and you not get it. Such things happen to everyone. This means you're not alone but in the best company.
You can be you and you will get through this.